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I can’t make you unpack your suitcase.

hannah brencher.


When I unzipped the belly of the little red suitcase the book was sitting there.

It was sitting right on top. It was waiting for me. Two years ago, I used to think that if ever I sat down and finally read that book, it would probably be my favorite book. Maybe one day. Instead, I grabbed a sweater and I closed the suitcase shut. I checked the bag. I would see it in New Orleans. There’s never enough room for your second carry-on bag when they lump you into Zone 3.

Half of my life plays out in airports. The people who spend too much time in airports know I’m not saying that to sound romantic. It can be a tad whimsical. On quiet mornings. And when you aren’t getting a connecting flight in Atlanta. And when you get to fly into cute, little airports with baggage claim…

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Bad Feminism

Claire Lehmann

“Pop-feminism,” as a movement, valorises feelings above reason, cynicism above hope. It has regressed to a point where anything at all, no matter how irrational or how narcissistic, can be celebrated as ‘feminist’.

Articles such as: I Look Down On Young Women With Husbands And Kids And I’m Not Sorryor How Accepting Leggings as Pants Made Me a Better Feminist are shared wide and far on social media as feminist political statements.

Anyone can identify as a “feminist”. Even men who openly admit to domestic violence, such as Hugo Schwyzer. There are no boundaries, no benchmarks and no standards to which feminism will hold itself accountable.

It was not meant to be like this. In 1792, Mary Wollstonecraft publishedThe Vindication of the Rights of Women. Her basic hypothesis was that women are capable of reason; just as men are. Yet because women are denied a…

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Perfectly the stone that builder refuse, is always gonna be the heck on a stone” and certainly the wise person is always the winner at all situations. Don’t be deceived by what you see, cause all might just be fake and you never can tell what becomes of it. A true man can fight he’s way up to the top without no additional body to assist he’s struggle’s. The aim of some people is to get attention from the ambitious men, perhaps meaning that they really need something from the upper hands. Generally the average man is entitled to the help of his brain, despite all arrangement put to place, inorder to hasten the job about to be done. We sometimes find out that, we make friends form different places like:
4.Training Enclosure
8.Bar e.t.c
Apparently we trend to know more considering the fact that the life we are living is all about “risk”. No one can ever think of predicting a humans lifestyle, despite being the closest friend or pal as the case maybe . The mind of humans cannot be foreseen by either you or me. While sleeping, you are assumed “dead” but still “alive”, and that’s how we tend to do things without thinking twice of the consequences attached to what we choose to do. The life another is differently from yours, so therefore; your destiny’s can’t be the same. Occasionally, nature’s call can’t be predictable because the ways of men are different from the ways of the creator “God”.

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All day we keep on thinking if we were really made to face some things that happens in life. But the truth still remains, that life was built on struggles & hustles & that’s always gonna keep us going, no matter what the life your living got for you. The pain comes before the gain, you can’t change that all by yourself because even when God created Man, he saw man needed comfort & he created woman. Even if you ain’t got no physical comforter there’s still someone out there there’s always trynna help. Opportunity is a chance and not a choice, even if your mind is set towards something else it doesn’t really matter in life because change is the only thing that is constant. Always trynna pave your way for success, hope, love, peace & friendship to be your guidance in life. Struggles don’t kill you, but they bring out the real substance your made of with just a matter of time. Patiently waiting for what you think is right, gives you more motivation towards great achievement, successful lifestyle, peace of nature, & most especially the freedom of life. The gateway is just too wide for you to stop halfway and wonder, “is this the end?“, but the question still remains the same. Without doubt everything we struggling for are just material things, kind of funny, we ain’t gonna die with any of this things we fight for. I still got one believe that no matter who you are, or what you are, or what you’ve achieved in life, you can never ever, even for one’s predict the next move of the next person. Don’t blame no one for what they are today, you’ve never been part of their life even for a second & see the pains, hate, suffer, hustle, struggle, life trauma, you’ve never known what bothers them the most. Being the big BOSS implies one thing, “have worked so hard’,.The mindset of any man can never be the same. You got to stand for what you believe in & fight for the truth. Always trynna be the man you are & always remember to smile in any situation.

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1. Be honest about the relationship
The number one rule that must be followed or else the FWB relationship simply cannot exist is being honest about the fact that that’s what it is: a FWB relationship. Make sure nobody is secretly holding out until the other one falls in love. Make sure it’s understood that meeting the parents and trips to Ikea are not in the cards.

2. Set the boundaries
Every FWB relationship is different. Figure out what works for you. Do you have to hang out before having sex? Or are booty-calls acceptable? Do you hang out after? Do you spend the night at one another’s places? Set these boundaries in advance (even if it’s awkward) so that nobody ever feels cheated or disrespected.

3. Keep looking elsewhere!
So you don’t start accidentally looking to your FWB for boyfriend/girlfriend type behaviors, be sure you’re still on the prowl for a real relationship. Or, at the very least, for other guys/girls to casually date.

4. Don’t do this with your best friend
Be real: when this thing ends (and it will end) you can’t have this guy/girl that you used to have lots of sex with hanging around, when you get a real boyfriend/girlfriend. And you probably don’t want to hang around him when he/she gets a real girlfriend/boyfriend. The best plan is to have a FWB who is, honestly, a disposable friend. Because there will come a time to dispose of him/her.

5. Be ready for an expiration date
On the previous note, know that this thing has an expiration date. There will come a day when one of you meets someone else that you want to get serious with, or even just realize that if you don’t end things soon, you’ll feel like you’re in a long-term relationship. Know that the expiration date will probably come unexpectedly. One of you will just lose interest, or even blow the other one off. Don’t fight it. Know that it’s a part of the game.

6. Like him/her a little
Even though you’re not meant to fall in love, at the very least pick someone you have fun chatting with and throwing back some drinks with. A lot of the fun of a FWB is the sexual tension leading up to the actual act, and that comes from a little flirting and mental stimulation.

7. Do not prioritize him/her
Don’t start cancelling on friends or other plans to see your FWB. That’s when you immediately start having higher expectations for the relationship. Only meet up with your FWB when it’s convenient for the both of you. That’s what this is about: each of you getting someone out of it. Not about necessarily giving to the other person or compromising.

8. Don’t plan ahead
If you start planning your rendezvous a few days in advance, it will begin to feel like a real relationship. You’ll even have to say the words to your other friends, “Oh no sorry I can’t come out that night. I’m meeting up with insert name of FWB here” and then it will really feel like a relationship.” Keep your meet-up’s spontaneous. Give maybe a morning-of notice.

9. See each other infrequently
It’s difficult to get emotionally attached to someone if you only see him or her once or twice a week. Good. Keep it that way. If he’s around too much, he’ll inevitably learn too much about you and visa versa and you’ll become invested in each other. That is a mess you don’t want.

10. Have good sexual chemistry!
Otherwise what’s the point? You shouldn’t have to work that hard to enjoy sex with your FWB. The majority of the reason you’re doing this is for the sex, and for the big O. If he/she can’t provide that for you, you don’t owe him the courtesy of sticking around.


1. Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable… Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals.

2. All life demands struggle. Those who have everything given to them become lazy, selfish, and insensitive to the real values of life. The very striving and hard work that we so constantly try to avoid is the major building block in the person we are today.

3. If there is no struggle, there is no progress.

4. Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds.

5. Where there is no struggle, there is no strength.

6. It’s a struggle for every young Black man. You know how it is, only God can judge us.

7. The struggle itself towards the heights is enough to fill a man’s heart. One must imagine Sisyphus happy.

8. The battle of life is, in most cases, fought uphill; and to win it without a struggle were perhaps to win it without honor. If there were no difficulties there would be no success; if there were nothing to struggle for, there would be nothing to be achieved.

9. I believe the ability to think is blessed. If you can think about a situation, you can deal with it. The big struggle is to keep your head clear enough to think.

10. Today we are engaged in a deadly global struggle for those who would intimidate, torture, and murder people for exercising the most basic freedoms. If we are to win this struggle and spread those freedoms, we must keep our own moral compass pointed in a true direction.

11.Always remember the life your living ain’t yours alone, better be wise and be the man you are.